Got Divorced? Why Entering a Rebound Relationship is the WORST Thing You Can Do

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Got Divorced? Why Entering a Rebound Relationship is the WORST Thing You Can Do

A rebound relationship is one that a person enters while still recovering from a past relationship. It may be just a few weeks or months after that relationship has ended, but there are those who recover and heal at a much slower pace.

Consider this an attempt to dissuade you from causing yourself more pain and heartache.

You just came from a divorce. It may not be that ugly or messy but nonetheless heartbreaking. Your emotions are raw and the memories still fresh. Let’s just say you are still licking your wounds. Then here comes a wonderful, interesting person.

Some may think that going out with others while nursing a broken heart is therapeutic. Sad to say, this is not the case. Sometimes, a rebound relationship has more devastating effects when it is finally over. It’s double the pain, hurt and rejection.

When you get involved in a rebound relationship, you enter it with some kind of expectations. No matter how you deny this, it is the truth. Remember that you might still be grieving. You need someone to make you feel loved and needed, or maybe, a proof that you are still desirable.

Jumping into a relationship right after a divorce will not confirm your appeal to the opposite sex. It only proves your vulnerability, as you need to have someone to prop up your confidence.

A Rebound Does Not Assuage A Divorce

A rebound relationship is not a salve to your wounds. Why, it can even delay your healing! If you enter into a relationship fresh from a divorce, you are only trying to cover up the wounds. But it will not make them go away. A band-aid is useful for minor cuts. But you need more radical “treatment” for wounds sustained from a failed marriage.

When you enter into a rebound relationship, you have some hang-ups and issues that have not yet been resolved. You will have the tendency to project these issues to the current relationship. Disagreements about minor things tend to be magnified in a marriage about to collapse. Therefore, what other people see as “small things” are major in your eyes because of what you just came from. When you get yourself a new boyfriend or girlfriend, you might not be looking at the same things the same way. Sometimes, meanings are relative.

You need as much time as possible to release everything, to heal, to forgive. Make sure that the deepest wounds have completely healed before taking on a new relationship. Completely let go of your ex first. Rediscover yourself as a single, a distinct individual capable of surviving alone. Then, you can bring yourself into a new relationship as a much better person, an improved version, therefore, deserving a better love than the one in the past.

Otherwise, you will only be multiplying your grief, as the world or anything, when seen through tears, is distorted.